Try something radical today: move in your strengths.
This word came early one morning when I just needed to “get it out” before the Lord. I needed to vent all the stuff I had been struggling with in my adjustment to two kids. This was one of the first mornings I finally felt I could just lay it out before Him in all its ugly imperfections:
I don’t like this. How can anyone really like this? 5 hours of sleep, minimal breaks ranging from 12-23 minutes, rushed showers, bad hair, always in I- need- a- shower -mode…the days last at a minimum of 12 hours, and just when I think I’m done at 8:00 pm I have Chris’ lunch to pack.*
I miss enjoying life. I miss running. I miss being able to pursue things I love. I miss time to create, to paint, to read and to write whenever I want.
I had no idea how much sacrifice it would take. Maybe I could manage with one, but with two it seemed impossible. How do other moms do it?
I often found myself being frustrated more often than not. A familiar picture of me is running around the house looking for my cell-phone and water– as if a constant reminder of how unorganized and what a mess I am- so I can nurse the baby and not be parched or bored. Oh, and I have to pee and I’m super thirsty because I’m nursing all the time.
Frustration, anger, argh!
I don’t like this.
The constant mess, clutter and chaos? Not a fan Lord.
To-do lists that I write that never get done by the end of the day.
Drop the lists, completely change your approach and move in your strengths.
Artistic: Make art with your son, and use your imagination as you play with your son, create with Lego.
Athletic: Go for a walk with your kids, play tag with Asher, spin him, wrestle and work out with him in creative ways.
Cooking: Cook, even bake with your son. Have Jesus Culture going…have fun every moment.
Laughter: Laugh with both of your kids and make a point to laugh with him and her.
Read: Set a reading time with them…and 30 minutes where you can do some personal reading.
Style: Be you, dress how you want that allows for all the fun for the day.
Clean up after yourself as you go. Give yourself grace and room for mistakes, diaper changes, feedings, tantrums and the like.
Let go of the other things, the other to-do lists. Let go.
I’ve been integrating my passions into motherhood, into the day-to-day, and while it’s probably a habit for many, it hasn’t been for me. I would work, and work, and work, and get frustrated at all that wasn’t getting done, and get frustrated at my absent-mindedness, loose everything –all- the- time persona.
While I’m not suggesting this approach should replace our much-needed mommy breaks away from the kids, I am saying it’s made a world of difference in my life. It’s made the difference between really enjoying being at home, to almost hating it (ok, pretty much hating it).
Maybe God didn’t make me super organized, detailed oriented, and meticulous, but that’s ok because my husband is. He fills my holes for me! I’m creative, athletic, and love to laugh, cook and bake, work on my wardrobe and have nice hair. That’s totally ok.
If you sounded like me, I dare you to try it.
What are your strengths? How can you integrate them (or how do you) into the daily routine of mommyhood?
*Totally a burden I put on myself. My husband never makes me make his lunch, I just like to, and feel like I should.