Using a wrap for the first several weeks in almost a perpetual way seemed at first amazing, because Cailyn seemed so much calmer. Of course, I found out very quickly that it wasn’t a cure-all, and she didn’t always want to be in there. Some days the swing worked, other days it was the fan…
I wanted to try baby wearing out of desperation to help calm my fussy/colicky baby, while having my hands free. I also have a toddler boy to look after at home. I had already learned that a wrap or sling was better for a growing infant’s body, so it sounded like a nice idea.
And it was.
It probably took me a mere few days to realize how much fun it wasn’t. I was pregnant for 9 months; it’s kind of nice to have a break from that, and using the wrap kind of made me feel pregnant again (albeit much less painfully so). Car seats, swings, strollers, I don’t care if the “natural” crowd knock them as “containers”; they are nice to use too!
I want some freedom to hug Asher when he falls, hug friends and family when they want one; I’d like the freedom to work out. Plus, the wrap isn’t terribly supportive when I have to bend over, and deal with my active toddler. So, yes, it may provide some hands free aspects, but it’s not entirely true.
Anyways, I raved about it in the early days, recommending it to many other moms. I will say, I’d still like to use it with other babies (Lord willing), and I would still recommend it, but not as a perpetual thing. And really, “baby wearing” in its purest forms was meant in this context:
- Your gestation period doesn’t last 9 months, but 18 months. Hope your back enjoys carrying a baby for an extra 9 months post-pregnancy!
- If you need to tend to personal things, have someone else hold your colicky baby.
- Let her take her naps in there.
…All so you can be “in tuned” to the needs and rhythms of your baby. For that reason, and plenty of other helpful benefits, I really did feel sold to it, but in practice it really was not practical for my life style at all. I don’t have live in help, other than my husband who works full time. Our families both live very far away from us.
Actually trying to live up to the standards of baby wearing, I have learned is also very tiring. I also missed being able to have my arms free to hold Asher or to hug my husband and friends.
I still think parts of it are awesome. I love that when I’m at the grocery store, out running errands, or at a friend’s house, etc. she falls asleep in it nicely (usually). Plus, a lot of people treat you like you’re pregnant, which has its pluses; I found a lot of strangers were nice to me, and it really started conversations.
So, sure it didn’t cure her of her colic, nor did it seem practical at all to wear her ALL THE TIME- in fact I darn right didn’t stickin like it, and ironically I felt less attached to her- but, for me, a balance is what will work best. I want to keep using it, but as tool, and when I want to.
In the end, what really has helped calm her down, and make for a happier baby has been employing some detachment techniques, which I’ll get to in a later post. Ironically, it’s been the very thing that’s made me much more attached to her.
What has been your experience with baby wearing?